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April 12, 2008---Big Sexy

The Good:

- Brought high energy in the beginning
- Attempted to grab a woman's hand
- Opened a number of sets

The Bad:

- Lost the energy at the end
- Didn't open enough sets
- Waited too long to make moves
- Failed to maintain Eye Contact

Future Corrective Measures

- Open fat chicks
- Look to get blown out more
- Talk to other dudes (preferably with girls)
- Work on Eye Contact
- Stop stalling!!
- Grab more hands often

WORK ONE AREA OF YOUR GAME EVERY TIME YOU GO OUT

NO FEAR.....

Things will start to change in the coming months. Big change. You will start to branch off from your usual circle of friends into something bigger and better. You will start to develop and acquire new skills that will help you adjust into your new environment. The ONLY thing that you need to remember and focus on is NOTHING could cause you to stop moving. The pain that you feel in the beginning is mandatory and necessary in order to survive the next stage. YOU will reach the next stage of evolution. That is CERTAIN....

ADDRESSING COMMON STICKING POINTS

Once again, I have failed to take charge of my emotions and composure when I needed them the most. Nervousness, unfamiliarity and lack of experience are once again to blame for my short comings. I did however manage to figure out through simulation in my head how to prevent such mishap to happen again in the future.

* I have to CLEAR MY HEAD from all the garbage that might throw me off my game. Useless junk such as fear and uncertainty can make or break my day and its best if I eliminate these obstacles as soon as possible. I can accomplish this by SHOCK AND AWE (Say or do something out of the ordinary relative to your normal behavior the moment you think about it. This has been proven by you time and time again. It is completely fool proof)

* Stop being so damn AFRAID OF SPEAKING YOUR MIND!!!!!!!!!!! Being afraid affects the outcome of whatever it is you wish to say in the form of poor voice projection, tonality and body language. You can get over this by speaking slowly and projecting your voice loud and clear. Also try to maintain eye contact as long as possible.

* When inside the CO, USE SHOCK AND AWE ASAP!!! Try going natural first and then follow up with canned material.

I have the material I need to succeed!!! I need to believe in myself a lot more now that I know I can do this!!!!! STOP BEING SO NERVOUS AND BE CONFIDENT!!!!

ANOTHER DAY ANOTHER BEGINNING...

So another day, another chance awaits tomorrow. I don't have to remind myself the things I need to come out on top at the end of the day.

I need to somehow find a way to be consistent. Consistent in the way I think, do and feel. A lot of times, the pressure and situation puts me in a negative state where I lose focus completely and it takes a lot of effort to get me back up to speed. I need some sort of chant or body movement that would immediately remind me to get in character because its game time. I will try to ponder and improvise about this in the coming days.

TALKING ABOUT PEOPLE'S RANTS

One thing I did notice about my behaviour in relative to dealing with people's comments about their situations is that I usually have no inputs or feedback about it. I'm certain that I do its just my lack of confidence halts and sabotages my thinking process. I always seem to second guess my response for fear of rejection and embarrassment. I have to trust my instinct and knowledge because besides confidence, its the only thing I got. I have the ability to retort and hit them back in my own style and preference, I JUST NEED TO BELIEVE...

FOR ONCE,STOP SAVING LINES!

Today's reflection:

I completely failed to capitalize on gaining recognition and positive attention because I chose to FINALLY use my ultimate weapon (CUSTOMER WITH A BAD BREATH) at a time when I was nervous for a number of reasons:

-No one with enough energy I could leech off to
-I usually start off rusty whenever I enter the office
-LACK OF BALLS

I won't be discussing the main sticking points of my game but rather focus on the main sticking points of what happened TODAY.

I realized that saving a story, a line or a joke is WRONG because it puts you in a pressure-filled position that usually damages the package during a delivery. What I mean by this is that the delivery (waiting period) creates an illusion of nervousness and uncertainty in your head which creates a pressure build-up. This build-up therefore causes the package to get damaged in the form of a bad tone, a noticeably fake body language and the worst of them all, an embarrassing try-hard moment. This one can damage a person's reputation in the form of a biased, usually negative perception from the group who witnessed the mishap. And since word can spread fast in any type of dynamic environment, the damage can turn out to be worse than expected.

I will keep in mind to always use THE BEST LINES to anyone worth my attention because it will put me in a talkative, playful position which could carry on throughout the rest of the day. This could also present an opportunity for me to go NATURAL and ditch the canned materials away since i'll be able to instantaneously come up with money lines out of thin air. This is the ultimate state that I would like to be in AT ALL TIMES.

I would rather be always in the moment, my game and personality on a free-flowing motion than always waiting for that PERFECT MOMENT to bust out the big guns. You have the opportunity, TAKE IT, ITS YOURS TO KEEP!

ON A SIDE NOTE:

Attempt to improve on the small-talk by going to someones cash lane and chat them up about their day, life, school, etc.

WELL ROUNDED

Having a story about an exciting experience is very important in any interaction. Sure, having the banter, witty lines and all-around humor is just as important but the main thing you have to understand is you can't rely on these factors to save yourself in a conversation with anyone, not just females. This is what being a well-rounded person is all about. Having all the bases covered is integral not just in making a great first impression but more importantly establishing yourself as someone of high value who is truly worth their time and attention.

Having limited background information on anything relevant gives off an image of yourself as someone who lacks experience dealing with things out in the real world and more specifically, various social interactions. A huge percentage of social interactions are focused on stories that happened between two or more individuals. A person who relies purely on facts will come off as boring and nerdy whereas a person who spits numerous amounts of stories about their interactions with others is perceived as someone who's cool and important. This is the fact i'm trying to get at.

The reason why A and E are excluding you from their "real" conversation (things that's related to their goals, dreams and aspirations) is because they feel and probably believe that you do not have the right amount of experience under your belt, therefore rendering your inputs useless and irrelevant. They however, find your witty comments and humorous take on situations as rather amusing and therapeutic. They see it as a good break from their hectic life and schedule and this is something you will have to endure for a while. You will be taken as someone that's inferior but during this turmoiled ordeal you will gather informations, experiment on certain scenarios and make a number of mistakes. But don't worry, this will not last for long. Just make sure to keep your goals clear and concise.

HOW TO ELIMINATE THE PROBLEM

Since I have a more different, if not complicated case, I will be requiring huge amounts of experience talking to someone who is socially capable of handling a stimulating and smart conversation. This way, I will be able to sort of "practice" and try out numerous things I was unable to try around certain familiar individuals. Once again, YOU WANT TO BE SMARTER, PLAY A SMARTER OPPONENT.