Saturday, September 8, 2007

WELL ROUNDED

Having a story about an exciting experience is very important in any interaction. Sure, having the banter, witty lines and all-around humor is just as important but the main thing you have to understand is you can't rely on these factors to save yourself in a conversation with anyone, not just females. This is what being a well-rounded person is all about. Having all the bases covered is integral not just in making a great first impression but more importantly establishing yourself as someone of high value who is truly worth their time and attention.

Having limited background information on anything relevant gives off an image of yourself as someone who lacks experience dealing with things out in the real world and more specifically, various social interactions. A huge percentage of social interactions are focused on stories that happened between two or more individuals. A person who relies purely on facts will come off as boring and nerdy whereas a person who spits numerous amounts of stories about their interactions with others is perceived as someone who's cool and important. This is the fact i'm trying to get at.

The reason why A and E are excluding you from their "real" conversation (things that's related to their goals, dreams and aspirations) is because they feel and probably believe that you do not have the right amount of experience under your belt, therefore rendering your inputs useless and irrelevant. They however, find your witty comments and humorous take on situations as rather amusing and therapeutic. They see it as a good break from their hectic life and schedule and this is something you will have to endure for a while. You will be taken as someone that's inferior but during this turmoiled ordeal you will gather informations, experiment on certain scenarios and make a number of mistakes. But don't worry, this will not last for long. Just make sure to keep your goals clear and concise.

HOW TO ELIMINATE THE PROBLEM

Since I have a more different, if not complicated case, I will be requiring huge amounts of experience talking to someone who is socially capable of handling a stimulating and smart conversation. This way, I will be able to sort of "practice" and try out numerous things I was unable to try around certain familiar individuals. Once again, YOU WANT TO BE SMARTER, PLAY A SMARTER OPPONENT.

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